Handling The “Why Can’t I Go To Mom’s” Question
When you are a newly divorced parent or a step-parent, you will encounter the question, “why can-t I go to mom-s house?’ Sometimes that can be a difficult question to answer depending on the children-s ages and the circumstances surrounding the situation. Unfortunately there is no instruction manual to help guide you and prepare you for it.
In our house, we try to be as honest and up front while still being as age appropriate as possible. I understand the nine year old will comprehend things the five year old will not. So far, letting them know that this is what a judge has said is what-s best for right now, seems to work. However, some day-s that answer doesn-t sooth the confusion they-re feeling. I don-t like giving vague answers like, because we said so, it makes them feel like we-re being mean and keeping them from her. But at the end of the day, I want my step children to feel safe in knowing that the arrangements made, ARE in their best interest. I always encourage my step children to talk about their feelings and ask questions and we will try to answer them as honestly as possibly.