Single Dads: Discussing Female Concerns With A Daughter
Female concerns consist of menstrual cycles, breast size, peer relationships, boys and dating, and sex with or without pregnancy. Drug associations such as drinking, smoking, and worse fall under peer relationships to some extent.
Be up front. Do not accuse when stating one’s position. For example, in discussing a concern, one might say, “I do not know everything but I am here for you if you want to talk about something bothering you.”
Be open and honest. Use simple direct terms. Use language that is at the level of the daughter’s understanding.
In the process of opening communications, make sure that when she speaks up that condemnation is not the immediate response. Do not speak anything that would crush self-esteem. Stating one does not approve is all right. Setting one’s expectations is all right. Insulting, name calling, and losing one’s temper to violence are not.
It is easier as something that seemed taboo becomes familiar and less mysterious. Don’t wait until your daughter is the expert by hard experience. If you want to speak to her and guide her as she grows, then give her your respect and invite communication early. Educate yourself before educating her. Start early, speak often.