As a single parent, you’ve faced all the ups and downs with your children, and you’ve done it all by yourself. Needless to say, it may feel like a physical blow on the day they ask to meet their mother. As difficult as this may be when Mom is out of the picture or estranged, you need to try and understand. It is common for children to be curious and have a longing to meet (more…)
Being a single parent sometimes means sacrificing time that you would normally spend with your children. You might have to work overtime to make extra money to support your family, or you might be in school after you get off of work so that you can have a better career. However, there are things that you can do to make sure you spend time with your children. Set aside some time on the weekend so that you can have a family game night. Make some snacks that your children like to eat, and (more…)
Do you often feel as though there are not enough hours in the day to accomplish everything that you need to do? If so, then you can rest assured that you are not alone. Fortunately, there are a number of things that you can do to save time. Before you start your week, you should make a list of everything that you need to do. You should put your most important tasks at the top of your list. Even if you do not (more…)
Running a single parent household can be very frustrating and a lot of struggling. When being new to being a single parent it will become harder to spend time with children, it may interfere with your work schedule and may run into expensive daycare costs. It will take some time to get your household balanced and in the long run in also can be rewarding for the children.
You will never want to show your child that you are discouraged and continue to teach them to (more…)
If you’re feeling guilty about your kids getting home from school before you get home from work, don’t. It’s a necessary evil when you’re a single parent and latchkey kids do just as well in the long run as those with stay at home moms. Here are a few things you should do to ensure your kids are as safe as possible while they’re alone at home
Think about security If you haven’t yet, look into Home Security system costs. You’ll feel better knowing your alarm has been turned off by the kids and some systems even come with in-home cameras.
Talk to your neighbors Talk to the parents nearby about your situation and ask them to help you keep an eye on the kids. They’ll let you know if the kids are playing in the street or better yet if someone suspicious comes by the house.
Talk to your kids If your kids know the rules they’ll be better prepared to live up to your expectations. Set some basic ground rules for the house and visitors and you’ll feel better.
Single parents can suddenly feel like the odd man out when it comes to socializing. You no longer fit neatly into the couple category and since you are a parent, you are not as carefree as a single person without children. There are a few things you can do to ease back into socializing.
You may notice a dwindling of invitations to married friends social gatherings. This happens because your married friends are unsure of whether you will be comfortable in (more…)
Nothing can crush a mother’s heart like hearing the child wail, “why can’t I live with Dad?” Divorces or separation are mean and messy on their own, even if both parties can be civil and behave, it’s still a loss of life and a division of memories. Children don’t understand that, “you have grown in a different way” or that father did some really nasty things to the mother such as cheating, or worse. All children understand is that their lives are changing for ever and they have no say in it, (more…)
When you are a newly divorced parent or a step-parent, you will encounter the question, “why can-t I go to mom-s house?’ Sometimes that can be a difficult question to answer depending on the children-s ages and the circumstances surrounding the situation. Unfortunately there is no instruction manual to help guide you and prepare you for it.
In our house, we try to be as honest and up front while still being as age appropriate as possible. I understand the nine year old will (more…)
Children are usually the last to know about significant changes in the relationship status of their parents, and this can lead to a great deal of insecurity, anxiety, and even mistrust in the parent/child relationship. For a child who has already had a “last to know” experience in the form of divorce, status changes need to be handled pro-actively.
It is not necessary to introduce your child to every person that you date, and in truth, that can be informational and emotional overload for a kid. But when someone comes along (more…)
Spontaneous moments of “Me” time can happen but it is better to schedule the time when possible to make sure one gets “Me” time.
Take a piece of paper. Write out the schedule of yourself and your child’s day, not as you wish it would be but as it really exits. Next sketch in estimates of time for each entry. Look at the times.
If the child has to be on the bus by 9:17 AM and you need to be en-route to work by 9:20 AM, that’s three minutes of potential “Me” time. “Me” time could be savoring a (more…)